Australian kids now average over 4 hours of recreational screen time daily. But what are we losing in those hours?

It’s a familiar scene in many families these days… screens dominating daily life – whether it’s phones at the dinner table, tablets during car rides or laptops aglow long after homework has been completed. But while technology brings convenience, it can also quietly pull families apart without you even noticing.

The good news? With some thoughtful screen time management and simple shifts in your parenting strategy, you can reclaim those lost moments of connection – regardless of your child’s age.

It’s all about finding balance – small, sustainable changes that help families connect better without adding stress. The advice in this blog isn’t about banning devices outright, nor making you feel guilty as a parent for insisting on occasional breaks from the screen.

Instead, we’ve outlined practical parenting strategies matched to every stage of childhood – because what works for a five-year-old won’t always work with a 15-year-old.

Building Lasting Habits in the Early Years (Ages 5 - 8)

Young children are still learning how to interact with devices, which makes this a great time to shape positive habits. At this stage, they respond well to structure and hands-on interaction, so the goal should be to make digital use a thoughtful choice rather than something they turn to automatically.

1. Parents Should Lead by Example

Children mimic what they see. If they notice their parents constantly checking their phones, they’ll assume it’s normal. Try designating "tech-free zones" (like the dinner table or bedrooms) where everyone, including adults, puts devices away.

2. Turn Screen Time into Conversation Time

A smart strategy is to make viewing active rather than passive. Instead of handing over a tablet just for quiet time, try watching a show together and discussing it afterward. Ask questions like, "What would you have done differently if you were that character?" This simple parenting strategy turns screen time into an opportunity to bond and spark meaningful conversations.

3. Swap Screens for Meaningful Moments With Shared Activities

Another effective plan is to replace solo screen time with activities you can do together. Young kids are naturally curious, so tap into that energy with simple, engaging tasks like board games, cooking meals as a team or even tidying up - yes, it can actually be fun! The secret is to make these moments feel special and enjoyable, not just a bland alternative for turning off the iPad.

Balanced Parenting Strategies for Today’s Tweens (Ages 9 - 12)

As kids grow older, time spent on devices often becomes their main way of staying connected – through group chats, online games and social platforms. While it’s natural for tweens to seek out these digital spaces, adults can still help them find a healthy rhythm.

1. Turn Offline Moments Into Enjoyable Family Traditions

 At this stage of their lives, children tend to resist direct instructions but are more open to routines that feel meaningful. Try creating a weekly family ritual – whether it’s a movie night, bush walk or a fun, hands-on project where everyone agrees to put their devices away.

 2. Help Tweens Reflect on How Screen Time Affects Their Mood

Instead of complaining, "You’re always on your phone!" ask, "How do you feel after scrolling for an hour?" Help them notice when screen time leaves them energised, not drained. This makes them more likely to create healthier habits for themselves – a key goal in any screen time management plan.

 3. Make Screen Time a Tool for Bonding and Skill-Building

If they’re glued to YouTube, suggest watching a tutorial together and then trying that skill in real life. If they love gaming, join in – it’s a way to connect on their turf before steering the conversation toward offline interests. A strong parenting strategy is to meet tweens where they are, using screen time as a springboard for shared growth.

Respecting Autonomy and Staying Connected in the Teen Years (Ages 13+)

Teens value independence, so heavy-handed rules often backfire. The aim here isn’t to control their screen time but to ensure it doesn’t replace or compromise real-world relationships.

1. Involve Teens in Creating Realistic Screen Time Boundaries

Sit down together and agree on boundaries. For example: "No phones during meals, but you can have downtime after you finish your homework." When teens help set the rules, they’re more likely to follow them. This collaborative strategy encourages respect while maintaining effective screen time management.

2. Build Connection With Short but Consistent In-Person Moments

Teens might roll their eyes at "family time," but they still need it – just in smaller doses. A late-night snack together, for example, can be enough to check in without feeling forced. These brief, screen-free interactions are an easy win for you.

3. Encourage Offline Passions which Compete with Technology

Whether it's sports, a part-time job or volunteering, teens with interests outside screens tend to manage their time better. Support these activities, even if it means ‘chauffeuring’  them around. Engaging in real-world pursuits is a powerful way to help them balance technology use.

For All Ages: Small Shifts That Make a Big Difference

No matter how old your kids are, these universal tips can help reclaim family connection:

1. Start With 10 Minutes of Connection Before Screens Come On

Before switching on any devices, take 10 minutes to talk, read or play together. This brief moment of family time can help change the atmosphere from disconnected to engaged and sets a positive tone for the rest of the day ahead.

2. Make Evenings all about Family Time

Screens before bed disrupt sleep and mood. Try a family "digital sunset" an hour before bedtime – swap devices for books or relaxed conversation. This simple routine can make a noticeable difference both screen habits and emotional wellbeing.

3. Be the Role Model for Balanced Screen Time at Home

If you want your kids to look up from their phones, show them how. Share something interesting you read (not on a screen!) or suggest a short walk- strolling instead of scrolling! Your behaviour sets the tone for what balance can look like.

Screen Time Management is about Presence, not Perfection

There will be days when screens win – and that’s okay. The goal isn’t to eliminate screen time completely but to ensure it doesn’t replace the moments that truly matter: the spontaneous chats, the long hugs and the memories you’re building along the way. It’s not about rigid rules – it’s about gently guiding your family toward balance, connection and more meaningful time together.

What small shift will your family try this week?